Sisterhood Of The Traveling Clothes…

| March 30, 2011 | 0 Comments

Growing up I used to love to swap clothes with friends, cousins, etc.–especially if they were older. It was one of the most fun parts of being a girl. Sharing clothes with girlfriends was always such joy.

Once I became an adult, the clothes sharing began to fade. People get busy, get married, have jobs and life just happens. It becomes more difficult to find “girlfriend time.” Phone conversations with best friends turned into 10 minute chats instead of long juicy discussions into all hours of the night. Getting busy seemed to have gotten in the way of the fun and simple things of the past. Until I became pregnant…

The instant we announced our pregnancy, emails came from out of the woodwork. “I have a friend that has some maternity clothes you can borrow”, “Do you want my extra baby carrier?”, “Do you need a crib?”, “Can I give you some advice on foods that might cause heartburn?”. It was incredible. I felt like I was initiated into an instant “mommy club”. Complete with members, a code language (including terms like Boppy, Binkie, and “mommy time-out”) and meeting times. The only thing missing was a secret hand shake. I was part of such an amazing group of women. Women whom I had been around every single day were eager to get involved and hear the “ins and outs” of my pregnancy. The feeling of this fantastic sisterhood set in right away. Their advice was something I accepted and appreciated, the maternity clothes were a huge help, and what has become one of Vivian’s favorite toys is a musical gizmo given to us by a friend who told me how much her son loved it. It seems the things that have given us the most joy are those that were once in the homes of people I love, not those that were once on a store shelf. Vivian is now in a stage where she always needs to be holding on to a “little buddy” when she naps or is in the car seat. A moment ago I finished speaking with my nine year old niece, who has willingly offered up her beloved “Sprinkles”. Sprinkles is her favorite sleeping buddy, so much so that she has two Sprinkles and is going to share the love with her new cousin. These things, along with the gifts we received from an old friend of my husband’s who now lives in Australia (who he has not seen in nearly a decade) have astonished me! Regardless of age, or distance, everyone has been so generous and excited to share in our love as our family grows.

For about a year now I have been on the receiving end of these gifts. I certainly have had no advice to offer about being a mom, nor any baby goods to give to anyone. I have been a total sponge, one of the super-absorbent kind that can suck up a gallon of water. Well, I just finally had the opportunity to wring myself out and it feels so great. Some new friends just learned they are expecting. It is their first baby and the mommy-to-be and I are around the same size. So, tonight I will be labeling some maternity clothes with my initials (something other friends taught me) and passing them on to her. I hope she feels beautiful as she wears them and embraces her changing physique. The amazing thing is that some of the things I am passing on were given to me by a friend, who received some of them from her sister! I’m sure eventually they will disintegrate, but until then, the love will continue to be shared. Last weekend I was able to give a couple of outfits to a friend who is expecting a girl, and has only boy items from her son. That too was such fun.

The feeling in my heart every day is how thankful I am. Thankful for Vivian, thankful for the gift of motherhood, thankful for our friends and family, and thankful for my wonderfully supportive husband. Just like the clothes and baby items passed from person to person, the love continues full-circle. I have reconnected with old friends from literally all over the globe, met new friends whom would have never come into my life, and have found new things in common with those that have always been there. All because of this gift of motherhood. My “initiation” into the “mommy club” continues, and I will continue to recruit new members! :)

On the subject of “recycling” clothes, I am a “cloth diaper” mommy. It is difficult to find a large selection of cloth diapers and learning how to use them and which ones to choose can be a daunting task. Soft and Cozy Baby, located in Hampden, offers free cloth diapering workshops, along with a huge supply of cloth diapers and cloth diaper products. They are my “go to” cloth diaper resource.

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