Pretty Little Liar

| February 3, 2011 | 0 Comments

Dear Chanel,

My friend of a few years has decided to betray me in the worst way possible. She stole from me in various ways. Not just personal tokens which meant a lot to me but even someone for whom I loved and cared deeply. Clearly this isn’t a friend anymore but how do I go about dealing with all this pain and hurt on the inside? I really liked this friend and thought I meant more.

– Cruel and Unusual Punishment

Dear C.U.P.

There is so much I wish we could have been taught in high school other than what year we fought certain wars in and memorizing speeches to say while sweating our bums off. People and friendships is a tough area due to the variety of people you will come across in your life. I could easily tell you that there are other people worth your time and that certain people are in your life for a reason, and then when their task is complete they will leave you. Fortunately – I am going to give you more than that.

This person was never a real friend and it’s not just because they violated your trust. This person does not know the meaning of friendship. A true genuine friend would have at least tried talking with you about these mixed up emotions. I do understand that not facing our inner feelings can be easier than admitting the truth – but if that’s worth losing a friend then who is to say that’s a friend at all? You must be in a lot of pain – which is normal. Let it out! Scream, kick, yell, cry and vent. Show yourself that you know you are worth more than what the Pretty Little Liar gave you. After you let out this emotion – use it for the better.

Do not mope around wondering what you did wrong or why this person did this. Truth is – you may never really know or you may not like the answer. Surround yourself with positive people who respect you and like you for you. As far as the “loved one” she took from you – I’m not sure if this is a significant other or a best friend or someone else – but you will find someone new. If it’s meant to work out it will.

So my advice to you is – cry, vent, spend time with great friends, visit some family/relatives, enjoy something you find fun–a good book, movie, dinner out, drinks with friends or an activity like ice skating and move on with your life. Friends and foes are well known for mistreating the ones closest to them. It’s just a matter of realizing how strong you are and how well you can cope with everything.

Essentially,

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