Always a Bridesmaid

| February 8, 2011 | 2 Comments

Dear Chanel,

Tis the season to be married! I’ve been looking around my Facebook and noticing something strange. Everyone is getting pregnant or engaged this time of year – and if they aren’t getting – they are! What happened to me? I’m not 21 but I’m not 30 either. I felt as if I was keeping a good pace with my life but now I feel left behind. If it isn’t pregnancy and marriage then it’s big career moves or just moving away in general. I work hard and enjoy my time as I did in my younger years. I’ve never been one to rush into anything and finding the right person isn’t a priority. Should it be?

– Always a Bridesmaid

Dear Bridesmaid,

That is really rough! Don’t get down on yourself though. These are exciting moments in your friends’ or acquaintances’ lives! Hopefully you get to be a part of as many as possible. After high school the trend is usually the same no matter the generation. You graduate and within 10 years, you do the one or more of the following:

  • Attend college
  • Graduate college
  • Go to graduate school
  • Pick up a trade or talent
  • Start a family/have kids
  • Marriage
  • Divorce
  • Rent your own place
  • Buy a home
  • Lose your home
  • Adopt kids/pets
  • Get a car
  • Move away
  • Decide your career path

It’s a pretty hefty list and most are typical paths. Not to say there aren’t other things people do, but those are the most common in my eyes. Unlike the older generations – there is no longer a wrong or right way of doing things. The cookie cutter outlook is now gone. You do not have to be a housewife with four kids running around while you cook in pearls and your husband brings in the bacon – sometimes while fooling around on the side. Things are different. We all have various choices and most are not looked down upon the way it was.

Be proud of yourself. Be happy that you have found your own path – eventually other things will come into play if you want them to. Kids are a huge responsibility and some women are ready to have them right away and be moms. Other women cannot stand the thought of a child in their life anytime soon. Either way – it is normal and there is no rush. It’s not to say you won’t feel bummed out here and there after hearing of all the baby showers and going to the wedding receptions , but at the end of the day, if you’re happy that’s what counts. Cliché or not – it’s true!

Be independent and be grateful you have that choice in life!


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