The Faker

Dear Chanel, chanel

I like to party, a lot. I have been doing it for years and aside from some drama, it’s been worth it. Lately I have been acting weird. Instead of drinking and getting myself drunk…I pretend to be wasted. I fill up the cup and then I dump it out in the bathroom or under a table or into a trash can. I’ll either keep replacing it and dumping or filling it up with more soda or juice but still acting like there’s a lot in it. Then, within the hour, I begin laughing more and loosening up, as if I am really drinking. Is this normal? I don’t get pressured to drink when I am not drinking but I feel like I am trying to impress myself. I need help.

– Bottomless Cup

Dear Bottomless Cup,

Is what you are doing normal? I would say, “yes”. There are a lot of people who are not ready to openly express their need for wanting to be sober. Some may get drunk anyway or take baby sips through the night to avoid getting wasted. And some do exactly what you described. Is there something wrong with it? All in all – no of course not.

The problem I do see with this situation is your self image. Why is it so important to you to be holding cup after cup of alcohol? What is wrong with just one drink? Do you feel your friends really are judging you? Do you feel the need to be the life of the party but can’t do it with being ‘drunk’? Does being ‘drunk’ give you a built in excuse of  your behavior?

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be sober and still want to have a good time. Besides, alcohol is a depressant. It will eventually drag you down, so why not enjoy the night for what it is? It’s great that you are surrounded by people who do not make you feel that you need to be drinking. Make choices for yourself and not for what you want people to think of you. Wouldn’t it be pretty embarrassing to have someone catch you dumping out your drink all night but acting drunk? What if they called you out in front of your friends – then what?

Personally, I am not a huge drinker. I do like to party and be around people, but I do not feel comfortable being drunk. I’ll limit my alcohol and then just let myself have a good time. I know that at the end of the night, my friends know who I am, they’ve seen me act a bit crazy – sober and drunk. Even after that – they are still there and enjoy being around me.

So my advice is – enjoy the party type you are, stop wasting peoples’ alcohol and just have a good time! Act crazy because that’s who you want to be – not because you think people are expecting you to be drunk. Impressions last a long time – so be sure to leave the right one.

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