A Conflicted Man

| November 17, 2009 | 28 Comments

Dear Chanel,essentials

I have been dating this girl (Girl-A) for about 8 months now and everything has been going really well. We have been friends since high school and finally started dating after we both had our own experiences mine more then hers. As one of my experiences, I was hanging out with a girl (Girl-B) almost everyday and only did some minor kissing which I failed to mention to Girl-A. She got really mad at me for what  I thought was nothing but am now starting to feel guilty. When I was trying to explain myself to her as to why I neglected to say anything, I realized I still have some unresolved feelings for the other girl (Girl-B). Now, of course, she has a boyfriend, who is a complete tool by the way, and I am her with my current girlfriend.

What should I do? I don’t want to ruin my relationship with my current girlfriend which might lead to us not even being able to be friends any longer but I cant help these feelings for the other girl.

Hoping to Get Some Help,

Unknowing Man

(Read Chanel’s advice after the jump)

Hey Unknowing Man,

First- I must congratulate you on actually being able to realize that most guys end up hiding things because they knowingly or unknowingly have suppressed feelings for the person of debate. Now, to get down to business, you have feelings for another woman. Your current girlfriend has already picked up on it and has shown her emotions. I’d say look at the hard facts – Why ruin something you’ve had for a good solid 8 months over someone who walked in and out of your life?

You want it because you do not have it. Don’t become a tool yourself and beat around the bush. Communication is one of the most important parts to a relationship – followed by honesty. If you cant fully give yourself to your girlfriend – than why bother at all? Think of what’s really worth it in the end. A quick fling like before or something more promising. Keep me posted on the status of your hidden emotions and your current relationship.

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